Sex on the Brain

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[Jana]

New book by Dr. Daniel Amen, www.brainplace.com

Here are 12 basic lessons from the book...

Lesson 1 - Sexual frequency is linked with longevity in men, and sexual enjoyment is related to longevity in women. The health of your sex life is associated with the length and quality of your very life.

Lesson 2 - No forethought equals no foreplay. An optimally functioning brain is associated with the behaviors that enhance sexuality, while a troubled brain troubles often ruins it.

Lesson 3 - Understanding the chemistry of attraction, attachment, commitment, and detachment is essential to being ?brain-smart? in relationships. Learn the brain strategies to help you get over the loss of a love.

Lesson 4 - Male and female brains function very differently. Knowing the differences and rules of interaction will help both partners be more sane and happier in relationships.

Lesson 5 - Brain imaging allows us to look and see who we are compatible with and who we might want to avoid. It offers some exciting new insights and may be part of the future of dating.

Lesson 6 - New love works like cocaine. It often causes us to make bad choices in relationships. Learn how to use your brain before giving your heart away and see the warning signs of trouble.

Lesson 7 - All of us have weird, crazy, stupid thoughts. A healthy brain protects us from saying the first thing that pops into our heads. You must understand the brain if you are to understand fiends and fetishes.

Lesson 8 - Orgasms are processed in the ?spiritual? part of the brain. Learn the commonalities between sex and religious experience, and what they tell us about enhancing sex.

Lesson 9 - There are many neuroscience tricks to enhance sexuality, from where to touch someone, to what scents to wear, and to what foods to eat.

Lesson 10 - There are many neuroscience principles that can help you embed yourself into the brain and psyche of your partner. Learn how to make love last and make it unforgettable.

Lesson 11 - Many untreated brain issues, such as PMS, depression, ADD, substance abuse, and brain trauma, get in the way of lasting love. If they are present, get help!

Lesson 12 - Since the brain is the largest sex organ in the body, there are strategies to optimize overall brain function, which will enhance your sex life.

[Liz]

Jana,
You've done it again girl! I've known for years what happened from the neck up mattered much more than anything else.
I always thought it was a girl thing though 

Liz

[jimtzu]

can lesson 4 be printed out in a pdf file?   

[Liz]

Oh that one's easy Jim.
Men need to have sex in order to feel loved.
Women need to feel loved in order to have sex.
That's easy when things are going well, but try working it out when there's a chill in the air...........

Liz

[Liz]

Yes, well it is possible to stay emotionally distant, for anyone who is quite happy to be only half alive. If we're talking about love, without possessiveness, senses of obligation or all the other trappings that sometimes come with it, then surely it's not attached to a big complex of "me" or "mine". Doesn't that create some space to support someone to do whatever makes them happy, or to live however they need to live. I think we tend to keep score and calculate too much, to assume motivations that aren't there and to make it more complex than it actually needs to be.

Lesson 6 - Is this why pornography and prostitution is such a thriving business?


No, lesson 6 is about initial attraction, which is the bit that gets people together in the first place. Becuase it's largely ego based, the other person gets idealised and projected on. Then there's the fall to earth with a bang when the person doesn't match up to the unrealistic expectations. So caution at this stage, until you really get to know someone, is sensible.

Lesson 1 - Does this mean a sex maniac will live longer than someone who is celibate?

Unless his wife finds out, in which case his end may well be premature 

Lesson 8 - Over sexed people have the potential to be spiritual giants?

Dan, we all have the potential to be spiritual giants.
The point is surely that there is (or can be) a huge spiritual dimension to sex, that is all too easily missed.

Liz

[Liz]

That could be about spot on, while the sexual revolution freed people up in lots of ways, it minimised commitment and depth in relationships in some ways. Baby tossed out with the bathwater again.
However, on the plus side, can you seriously imagine going back to a world where everyone's sex life was ruled by the risk of pregnancy ON EVERY SINGLE OCCASION? That's my idea of the road to hell.

Liz

[Michael]

I read this article a few months ago, and it intrigued me no end.  For anyone interested in this subject enough to plow through a fairly lengthy interview with Barry Long:
"I Am A Tantric Master"
An interview with Barry Long
by Andrew Cohen

[marianthi]

As soon as I had up the link of Dr. Amen given by Jana, I looked into his eyes at the photo placed there and heard the same call that appeared in the eyes of another expert on great sex, David Deida,  and it said:

?Can I please have some -  so I can stop writing and writing about it??.   

 Now I will go and look into the Barry Long link given by Michael. 

I?ll report later on my Long-Amen conclusions.   

Hugs,
Marianthi.

[Jana]

I got the sex is not sex Realization during my awakening, now I need to get back to the sex IS sex Realization, but I lack the drive with which to do so the circuitry thus blown by the first Realization. Shit I wish my life was longer, or I could start it over again, with the ultimate realization that the entire universe is SEX, then perhaps I could get it right.

Barry Longs work is great especially for sexual healing, but haven't gotten into it yet.
Waiting for RAM's mature monogamy.

Last week I considered the idea that perhaps the genitals could go solar like the heart can go solar, but then I worked out that  it might now be possible considering the magnetic nature of the heart and the increase amount of neuronal tissue at the heart. The genitals can be fully lit in the full body 10,000 orgs inner conjunction though...and they probably could be far more alive than we normally allow them to be.

More Jana

in my opinion men don't think enough with their dicks. They don't think into their dicks enough, infuse their dicks with knowledge, wisdom, power and mogo. Just consider the sexual shaming men get over the course of their lives. And then trying to find meaningful relationship mungst all the gamers and insane hoards. We are a very sexually confused species. When your dick starts to go, everything drops off...the muse, verve for life, interest etc...

I think we need a revolution in romanticism, spiritual romanticism if you will, as the foundation of a revolution in the creative emmancipation of the individual arete.

[Liz]

?Can I please have some -  so I can stop writing and writing about it??.   

Marianthi, with one rapier thrust, catrates an "expert"................
very sharp

Liz

[jimtzu]

a little off topic but funny.... "R" rated   

http://www.glumbert.com/media/consent

[Nickeson]

Lesson 12 - Since the brain is the largest sex organ in the body, there are strategies to optimize overall brain function, which will enhance your sex life.

Hey,
Dr. Amen's credibility just hit the wall on this one. Leaving aside the plausible consideration of the entire body being an integrated sex organ (at least when in the right hands), one has to contemplate (at some length if you wish) the function of the skin. The skin is the body's largest organ and if it is not sexual then nothing is. Given the fact that Dr. Amen is a scientist (and not an artist) and given Marianthi's always well considered and learned observations as to the secrets in his eyes, we should cut the man some slack for his failure to fully appreciate the finer points in the arts of which he writes.

The book must have been written for a fairly young audience: Lessons 1,2,3,4,6,7,8,9,10 and 11 are all old news.

Lesson 8 - Orgasms are processed in the ?spiritual? part of the brain. Learn the commonalities between sex and religious experience, and what they tell us about enhancing sex.

I've had religious experiences racing C Class stock cars on a dirt track. I think we should learn the commonalities between sex and NASCAR.

Steven

[Liz]

Oh and 70% Cocoa chocolate-orgasmic

Liz

[Jana]

If the cell membrane is actually the brain of the cell, by metaphor that means that the skin is the brain of the body.

Bruce Lipton?s 2 videos at google describe the difference between ?growth? chemistry and ?defense? chemistry and how that relates to health and behavior.
http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=-8982208321500875373&q=bruce+lipton

[henry]

big excellent bruce lipton, jana. thanks. .. ..henry