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[Liz]

Oh good, about damn time too! :-)

To all of the above.........happy new job

Liz

[Daniel]

I knew I'd get my butt in gear...sooner or later!  Turns out it was later! 

Well, they have made a job offer, want me to start next month. Through all of this I have seen and realized how fragile and vulnerable I still am. Look how easy it was to bum me out and put me in a downward spiral, over a job. Maslow had me by the balls. Its the family thing. I am sure if I were a lone wolf then I would be footloose and fancy free. The weight of family responsibilities can break your back if you are not careful. And so my fire is to face all of it with an equanimity, Buddhas middle way.

I have learned much from this and have seen how much work I have yet to do on myself. I am happy to have friends who stick with you through thick and thin, and boy did it get thin lately! 

Handshakes  and hugs to all my friends here at Heart Mind.

Dan

[henry]

several people here are very happy for your job offer daniel,and it sounds like you're not sure. you want to be sure your family is on board. we are on board whatever you decide....

[Daniel]

Henry,

 My confidence in the goodness of all who walk these HeartMind halls is as high as your mountains. If there is an unnamned peak to walk upon we should call it "Henry's Peak".

Dan

[henry]

thanks daniel, the geological survey marker on top of the mountain says "greever mountain", but not even the greevers call it that. it is named "poor boy" mountain on the topo maps. lots of changes in the valley below  , but the mountain remains magnificent  ..henry...by the way, that's the mountain behind my cowboy hat.

[marianthi]

Ah Daniel,

Quoting from you: ?The weight of family responsibilities can break your back if you are not careful. And so my fire is to face all of it with an equanimity, Buddhas middle way.?
 
My friend, having spent decades on the cross made up by family responsabilities vs. self needs I would not recommend such a perch but I hope that your?middle way?takes some win-win form for all involved.   And btw... I did give, months ago, examples of how the Buddha was actually a man of extremes...

Best of luck on all decisions and moves.

Cheering for you,

 

Marianthi.

[Daniel]

Marianthi,

   Your wisdom always is most helpful in times of need. I will look for your comments on the Buddha (I remember now). I mentioned the middle way after hearing Alan Watts speak of it and I realized that I have been a man of extremes for many years and at times to my own dis-ease and disadvantage. And so the thought of living a middle way struck me as something to strive towards.

    My conditioning of raising a family is no doubt magnified due to lack of a support system beyond myself and my wife. I have just passed through a dark and shadowed night for over 1 year and finally the clouds are breaking apart. I have not been fully myself and have not been as engaged or as useful as I normally could have been. This is the cause and effect of the shadow self and the price to pay. We do not know to what end any of us will reach or to what end our decisions in life play. We deal at best with probabilities, but in reality no one knows the future.

  I hope that as healing takes place I can be a better man and more fully engaged friend. Thank you for your part in this. Believe me, every drop of a kind word has gone a very long way for me over the Integral years!

God bless. The best is yet to come (as it always has).

Daniel

[marianthi]

 
  I hope that as healing takes place I can be a better man

Daniel,
We love you just as you are!    or

Thanks for the kind words and happy parting of clouds.

 

Marianthi.

[maryw]

 

Oh wow; congratulations on your job offer, Dan. Glad to hear that the clouds are breaking apart ...

(I don't seem to have found that middle way either!)

warmth to you,
Mary

[Daniel]

Mary, great seeing you again! Where have you been? Writing that book? I'll be looking for you on Ophra! Thank you for the congrads, and thanks again Marianthi!

To give you a perspective on this whole thing, here is an edited email I sent yesterday to a friend I worked with at another tech company and it may give you a small window in an Orange meme world  :

Hi Darlene,

     You are right, I am burned out! Frustrated, angry and depressed. I can see how those folks who are unemployed for long periods of time end up putting a gun to their heads.

   I don't know about calling ____. They know who I am, I don't want to come crawling to them ( but then again, it may be worth a try!!!!!) There are two things that may have put a spot on my reputation with ___, although very very small things. One, ___ had complained to me once that I was not ?more flexible? with my schedule. I was giving them 3 days a week and they knew I was holding down another full time job (and thank God for that considering how they axed us and left out rear ends hanging in the breeze). Secondly, issues on our downtime (which there was a hell of a lot of). After I had asked nurses and doctors two dozen times if they needed help and got ?No? for an answer, I would read a book (but always immediately put it down as soon as I was needed, and I would none the less constantly do rounds regardless) ___ read newspapers (I guess that was more innocent in appearance). This could have gotten back to ___ or ___ somehow from some of these vindictive big-mouthed nurses we ran into (that's just between you and me). I suspect these two things, though its not confirmed.

  So you are a ___ employee!  WOW. Cool. I worked with case managers in Chicago when I was an Informatics RN setting rights and access to our database. Will you be involved with core measures as well?

   And good news for me. I have accepted a job with ____, I start in June. It means a lot of traveling, but I will have to live with it. When I interviewed in Boston they set me up in a Double Tree across from Cambridge, which was nice.


   The job title is Implementation Consultant. It begins with 3 months of training, so they must be serious about it.  So, if you are still hunting for a travel job, you should check them out. I submitted my resume on their website and was amazed that they responded. No headhunters. Hired direct. And boy have I had bad experiences with headhunters.

I recently interviewed for a job at ______ Hospital. I went through dressing up, driving all the way there and getting half way through the interview when they said I did not have enough Cerner experience. They blamed it on the headhunters misrepresenting me. This idiot (I shouldn't say that, you never know whom you will be working with again in the future!) had my resume in his hand all along, it nowhere misrepresented my background, I was just lead along like a donkey and then ?Sorry, not interested?. This really frosts my ass when they do those things.


What really is great about this new job is that I don't have to move!!! I had the job offer in Chicago, but selling my house now with the market as dead as it is would have been a nightmare and I would have to move up to Chicago without my family waiting to sell the house. It was not the most ideal situation. But, I would have liked to move to Chicago. Tampa isn't my most favorite spot on the planet. When I drive through Zephyrhills and see road signs everywhere that say ?Jesus Saves? that pretty much says it in a nutshell. I figure, why not put up some signs in Zephyrhills that say ?Buddha Enlightens?! By the way, I work with a unit secretary who is trying to save my soul , Lord be Praised. She told me that Buddhism is a cult. OH?my?GOD, that is scary. So who has the real cult? Please stand up and be counted and keep thumping those bibles folks?praise Jesus.

I am sad that I had to turn down Chicago because I personally know several people there and they are gems to work with and it would have been a blast to work with them again. But in the long run, ______ will probably take me further in my career?and I'm getting old, almost 49!



Who knows, I may some day end up at ________ after I get more notches on my career belt. This new job won't be all roses. Travel is a burn out situation as well, I will be away from the kids every week. But, I will not be on hurricane call and I will have all my holidays off. As usual, there are pluses and minuses. Pay? Well, ______ is paying me more than any offer I have had! It's still not enough with only one income for this family, but it's an improvement. I'm on the ground floor, so that's fantastic to get paid what they are offering for being on the ground floor (plus, I think they know the stress levels of traveling all the time and give you a bit more to make the offer attractive.) Monday - Thursday weekly out of town with every Friday back home (which you still must work from your home). Every weekend off. (I will have to keep a part time per diem nursing job a couple shifts a month).



I would encourage you to try them if you still have your sights on a travel assignment. But it probably would not be contract as you would be full time with _____. With your background, you would do quite well.



Hey, we should get together for a Starbucks soon! Tell me a date and time when you are at work and we could meet at Starbucks for a coffee. Between now and early June. What do you say? I would like to chat in person. I'll even wear my ____ shirt and my ?Ask me about Med/IV? button!  I can do May 15th, 16th, 17th. After that I must do my new schedule so give me a date and I will see if I can work it out.

Namaste,

Dan

Now that my Maslow hierarchy is put in order again, I can move onto higher and better things (Sorry, I was unable to pull off the Eckhart Tolle thing of sitting on the park bench unemployed in a state of bliss. It worked for him, I'll have to do it the hard way!  )

Hugs,

Dan

[Liz]

I can see you have lifted loads already. COngratulations, i see it's all confirmed now, wonderful! I am so happy for you.

HOme all weekend every weekend isn't so bad, truth is you were only home to sleep before anyhow. You may even like it, you'll have time to read and do other things while you are on the road

WEll done to you

Hugs
Liz

[Robin]

Bright blessings to ya'll.  It's always good to read good news.

"Knock on the sky and listen to the sound."
                                                              Zen saying

Maybe it's like the sound of one hand clapping, chopping wood, carrying water?